Services

Facilitation

I am a trained and skilled facilitator who helps groups have difficult conversations with relative ease. Discussions I have facilitated include: strategic planning direction, virtuous living (Ben Franklin Circle), neighborhood gentrification, “Black Minds Matter”, equity initiatives, naming and healing historical harms, “Mama Bears” retreat, and preparing entering college freshmen for college success.

Workshops

I have the following workshops already designed and ready to deliver to interested groups. Also, I can create a custom designed workshop to meet client needs. 

  • “Triggering Event Cycle.” As we do the good work to heal communities and prevent future violence, we are often faced with our own or others’ unhealed personal wounds. Even the most well-intended comments or innocuous moments can trigger disproportionate emotional responses. Emotions can run high and illicit defensiveness; or conversely, sensitivities may elicit feelings of self-devaluation. After a triggering event, we tend to follow a predictable triggering cycle, with seven steps, ultimately ending with a regretful response. Further study of this cycle also reveals seven opportunities to step outside of the cycle and find growth and freedom. Objectives of this session are: 
  1. Understand what a trigger is and how it impacts interpersonal conflict
  2. Identify our own personal triggers and their interpersonal roots
  3. Learn seven strategies for interrupting the Triggering Event Cycle
  4. Consider the role of the Trigger Event Cycle when extending compassion to others who are in conflict
  • “Navigating Difficult Conversations.” When conversations about diversity, equity, and inclusion get hot, tensions can rise. A skillful facilitator can make the difference between a dialogue where a variety of experiences are shared, and a debate where tempers flare. This workshop will prepare facilitators to lead productive conversations about diversity, equity, and inclusion. Five key strategies will be shared with opportunities to practice: set intentions, create a dialogue, connect before expand, craft a mantra, and model humility. The strategies are informed by research on persuasion, assertiveness, and dialogue.

  • “Avoiding Conflict Without Avoiding Conflict.” Many of us struggle to find the right words when we are faced with potential conflict. We fear we’ll make things worse, so we tend to avoid the conflict altogether. In this workshop, participants will learn the Assertive Message Format — a direct expression of the sender’s needs and thoughts delivered in a way that does not attack the receiver’s dignity.

  • “DEI Terminology: What does it all mean?” The words we use when we talk about diversity, equity, and inclusion efforts change so often. It’s difficult to know if new terms are synonyms or new concepts all together. A common understanding of our language is essential for breaking down divisions and working towards achieving understanding and partnership. This workshop will review common DEI terms and concepts and offer opportunity to dialogue about the ideas. Terms/concepts included: DEI and belonging, multicultural/intercultural, implicit/explicit bias, privilege, racism/anti-racism, and white supremacy.

  • “Managing our Polarities.” With so many ideological divisions today unity feels impossible. The “polarity management” framework offers a guide for how diverse worldviews can (and should) co-exist in order to strengthen our teams and ideas. This workshop features an overview of polarity management and walks participants through its practical uses.

  • “White Ally Toolkit.” Often White allies find it challenging to talk with their white friends and colleagues who are more skeptical of racism. They either say things they regret or don’t engage at all. The White Ally Toolkit is specifically designed to help White allies be more effective in these discussions. This workshop offers an overview of the White Ally Toolkit concepts and strategies. All are welcomed to attend, regardless of your race or beliefs about racism.

  • “Improving Students’ Intercultural Sensitivity: A Development Perspective.”  No one’s cultural mindset is fixed, though it may seem that way. Intercultural sensitivity is a developmental process represented by stages of personal growth. Teaching students intercultural sensitivity is complicated because development doesn’t respond well to debate, persuasion, and sometimes even instruction. Only meeting stage-appropriate needs can do that. Understanding intercultural sensitivity as a developmental process helps faculty and staff to empathize with where their students are, and to select and provide appropriate developmental interventions that are more likely to lead to personal growth for students. This session overviews the Developmental Model of Intercultural Sensitivity (DMIS, Bennett, 2002) with pop-culture film references, and identifies strategies for helping students with their growth.

Speaking

In addition to the above workshops, here’s a sampling of speaking topics I have been invited to deliver. I can also design custom speeches for clients.  

  • “Mindful Activism.” Reviews the stress and burnout associated with activism and offers mind-body tools to work through that stress with the goal of staying engaged. 
  • “When the Spirit Calls You to School Board Meetings?” On my spiritual journey via becoming an activist and organizer for advocating for transgender youth.
  • “Trustbuilding as an Activist.” Provides a framework for trustbuilding and relates that to community activism with my own personal stories as examples. 
  • “What’s Going on in Hanover?” Provides an update on the current status of transgender inclusion in Hanover County, Virginia and my role and reflection on that journey.
  • “How to Change the World.” Reviews several social change models that are relevant in social entrepreneurship strategies.
  • “Leadership and Activism.” What contemporary leadership theory has to teach us about how to become effective community activists.
  • “On Becoming an Activist.” Reflecting on my journey from teaching leadership studies for over 20 years to becoming a community activist and organizer. 
  • “What is Leadership?” Reviews the foundational assumptions in contemporary leadership theory, a marked shift from management-centered paradigms typical of the industrial revolution toward shared-leadership models. 
  • “Story Stop.” My experience of writing my personal history.

Coaching

My approach to coaching is eclectic as I have numerous personal growth frameworks to draw from. After a free consultation, I can design a coaching strategy that meets a client’s specific needs. Strategies and frameworks that I draw from:

  • Strengths-Based Leadership (Gallup)
  • “Open honest” questions and discernment circle (Parker Palmer)
  • “Living in the Tragic Gap” (Parker Palmer)
  • Personality type and personal development (Myers-Briggs)
  • Unlocking personal creativity (Julia Cameron’s “Artist Way”)

“The conversations going on around us, and those we participate in, are also food. Are we consuming and creating the kind of food that is healthy for us and helps us grow?” - Thich Nhat Hanh